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Ahhh Summer, Water and Swimsuits....NO!!!!

1/29/2015

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I know, it is only the 4th week of January; but we're already starting to look forward to longer days, warmer nights and less clothing. That's right, less clothing.

The other night while having dinner with some friends, the topic of Summer came up; from going to Airshows, wearing shorts and t-shirts to going to the beach and beachwear.  All was going just fine, until the dreaded "swimsuit" issue came up. I didn't realized that for some people, specially women, this is a BIG deal and furthermore a very touchy subject. Specially for one of my most favorite friends on the planet, Melisa.
She is an adorable person in just about every sense of the word. The woman is fascinating and a blast to be around. But, a fiery repulsiveness to be seen in public in less than long sleeve shirts, jeans and long skirts become fighting words. I know, I found out about it!

I suspect she's not the only one who feels this way. In fact I know she's not alone on this self imposed commandment.

I've always felt curious to seeing individuals in the middle of 100° day at the peak of Summer, wearing heavy shirts, long pant and even sweat pants and layers of clothing, even at the local swimming  pools. Why?!

My answer came that night with my friend Melisa. She does not like her body.
That blew me away, since she has a pretty face, nice hair, very attractive bust line and average built. I know that body acceptance is a big deal for everyone. Including yours truly. But, she has come to believe, that her's in particular is not at all good enough to be ever be seen in public. That  made me very sad.

I supposed that somewhere, somehow, long ago, some one  came along and made a rude comment. Or,  maybe a simple  gaze in the mirror didn't reflect the same image found on a fashion magazine. I don't know. But whatever the catalyst was that cemented the idea in her head that she was not "good-enough", stuck.
I assured her, that her beautiful face, personality and shape were pleasing and perfectly good enough not only to be at the beach but here, in these pages. The only response I got was an even more determined resolved to not do it.
Yup, time to back away!

Sure, I understand that sometimes flattery and adulation can be perceived as a self serving tool, specially coming from a "guy". But in her case, there's much more than that. She truly, is uncomfortable with herself.

I wonder how many perfectly, fantastic women out there,  who are going thru similar circumstances. How many, good times, dreams and even relationships are going unfulfilled because of a miss-perception of oneself?

Body image is a powerful tool. It dictates how we move in society, how we maneuver in day to day living; Sometimes preventing us from living.

I love my friend and I can only hope that her wall, will someday give way to her full glorious self.
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Work in Progress

1/20/2015

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Yup. this is definitely a work in progress. Specially, while trying to find great images to populate the site. I don't want to just copy and paste the thousands of images floating out there. I want to find the real women who like, enjoy themselves.

While working with some models in photography, I have come across individuals who aren't comfortable with themselves or who clearly dislike or even hate who they are. Yikes!

The quest goes on to find happy, lovely and nude models.....
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Insulting Breasts?

1/20/2015

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I was recently at a restaurant with a great friend of mine, enjoying everyday topics and making small talk just about anything under the sun. As we sat there and the hours passed, a couple of women, maybe middle aged, walked in and took a table not far from ours.
We continued our conversation, sometimes louder trying to make ourselves understood over the gigantic screen, playing the last NLF game at a loud volume. Then, you know, there's that 5 minute low in every conversation. It was then when we could overhear the two ladies discussing the topic of breastfeeding in public.

Needles to say, that topic caught my attention. I was intrigued as to where did these two women stood on the subject.

I live in a very conservative part of the country and I'm not really used to ear that topic, being discussed in that much open forum.

One  of the women was clearly agitated that "these women" as she put it, had the Gaul to exposed themselves in public. She was mortified by the thought of any part of herself being exposed under any circumstances. The other lady, seemed more pragmatic about the issue. She said that when she breastfed for the first time, she too, was embarrassed and very self conscious about it. Then when her second child came, she was more open when breast feeding in front of other members of her family, Now that she was on her third child, she said that she's no longer concern about who's around. That her child is her priority and when she's hungry she will feed her on the spot.

My friend and I had a second discussion about the same topic. Echoing pretty much the 2nd lady's sentiments.

The first lady was clearly  annoyed that her friend could be so casual about what she considered to be a very, very private affair. And she also expressed that if her son was hungry, she would give him a small bottle and let him wait until a more appropriate location was found.
Somehow that conversation expanded to all breasts in general. Apparently, our lady number one, was clearly against any breast, any nipple or a hint of a cleavage being exposed for the benefit of any "perv" as she stated.
"The mere sight of a mother flipping a boob out offends me" she said.

There's that word "Offend". I believe that people will go out of their way to get "offended". You will hear me say that over again and cringe about the particulars.

The second woman pretty much stood by her opinion and tried to move the conversation to a different topic; but woman number one was already too invested in her position and wanted to be clearly understood. Their meal ended and they left.

As my friend and I sat there, contemplating their conversation I began to ask some questions of myself.

Why are boobs, so insulting to some people? Women no less.

In these days of social "enlightenment" and forced upon politically correct ideas, why haven't we, all, embraced our humanity?
Why can't we be ourselves and find the beauty that we are?

Why does the mere sight of a beautiful boob, stir so much fuzz and negative response within some of us?

I was surprised at the attitude of the first woman. She claim that she was not a conservative and couldn't understand why her friend who apparently was a conservative would do such a thing. The second lady simply said that because she had conservative ideals, she view the whole breastfeeding issue as a normal, natural and proper thing to do.

I think it has nothing to do with being a conservative or not. I believe it has to do with mental well being. A person who enjoys life, has respect for others but also has a great respect for her/him self will view a natural event and cherish it.
I believe that being ashamed of what has been given to us, is a powerful tool of ignorance and bigotry.

Why should we continued to be offended about an exposed tit, when murders, Jihads, intolerance and random acts of horror and human degradation abound?
Why should we be mortified and put out, that a child is having his meal or that so and so, dared to show her assets, when on the other side of the planet children are starving to death and some women are being tortured and killed just for being women?

Respect and appreciation YES. Fear and ignorance NO!
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